Tuesday, February 26, 2008

In Memory of Einstein the Huge



Over ten years ago, I decided to adopt a rescue pug. I was at a Little Angels Pug Rescue adoption fair and decided Einstein was the one. He wasn't just any old pug, either. He was the only one who sat in the middle of the makeshift dog run and didn't move. He looked sweet, a little sad, and very lost. His face, ears and paws were pure black, and his features such that he looked like a lowland gorilla! I joked with my then boyfriend that he looked perfectly at home on a couch, cracking open a beer and watching the Superbowl all day.

But he was already spoken for. Another woman got there first. So a month later, I went to the next adoption fair...and there he was again! What happened? I didn't care - all I knew was that we was going to be my dog!

A few weeks and housechecks later, Little Angels decided I'd be a good mom for my big furry gallump. He was a whopping 30 pounds - huge for a pug - and the vet was pretty certain he was a product of a puppy mill. His small paws showed that he had been malnourished as a puppy, and a lung infection that was never treated left him with scar tissue in his lungs so he would never be one to play or fetch or even walk for very long distances. But boy could he snuggle and lick. He was a rare double coat, so the hot summers made his breathing even more labored, so we didn't leave the house much then. When I adopted Molly six months later, he seemed to relax even more and let her take over being top dog in the house. Those dogs were with me through five moves, a few rotten boyfriends, one fabulous boyfriend-then fiance-now husband, and a baby.

Einstein started to go downhill pretty rapidly over the past few months, right after his 16th birthday. An eye infection left him blind - with our vet and medicine, nothing got rid of the green gook and we were told he would need to lose the eye. But then, we knew he wouldn't make it through the surgery because of his weak lungs. So we waited. But when he lost control of his bladder and couldn't walk to relieve himself, and howled as though no one was in the room, we knew it was time. Einstein left us this morning, just a few hours ago.

I loved this dog and will keep his memory close. He was an amazing dog, full of love, a dog who would willingly put his paws around your neck and rest his head on your shoulder. One who was much more comfortable when he had some part of him touching me - a paw, a chin, whatever - as he slept. I will always be grateful, too, to the organization who rescued Einstein from death at the pound over ten years ago when his previous owners decided they'd like to travel the world and had no time for a dog. You can find them at www.lapr.org.

Goodbye my sweet Einstein.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

My video's on Brides.com!!!

I'm so excited - my amazing contact at Bride's Northern California helped me find a new way to show off our photos. A slideshow on Brides.com! It's fun and simple and I hope you like it...



A HUGE debt of thanks to Renaissance man Ron Grandia (www.rongrandia.com). I swear, he's just a talent in so many things. An amazing DJ and master of ceremonies, a fun, fabulous and down-to-earth presence to officiate a ceremony, and a killer video editor to boot. He's the one that did the video for me. Yay Ron!

Friday, February 15, 2008

I'm not done with Myla & Bart...






There were so many things that were RIGHT about Myla & Bart's wedding. The flowers, the makeup and hair, the dresses, how smoothly everything went and how much fun everyone had. Myla & Bart made some very wise decisions and I wanted to use them as an example of what really can make a wedding shine (and trust me, it wasn't the weather - we even saw a bolt hit the parking lot lamp at Sharon Heights!)

Super smart decision number one: hire a planner.
Since I lost my blog, you can't read back to my big big post about why a wedding planner is so vital. But I'll try to dig that one out or recreate it. It has saved many a bride and groom from pulling out their hairs one by one. Really.

They chose the brilliant Jean Marks. Her energy and enthusiasm is wonderful, she's exceptionally well organized - and she had two helpers, one for the ceremony at Church of the Nativity in Menlo Park, and one for the set up at Sharon Heights.

Super smart decision number two: tell people what's important to you.
Open up to your vendors. If they know more about you two, your likes and dislikes, boy will that show through. Sometimes I'm left to guess, like if I see thousands of flowers everywhere, I know that the floral decor and how things looks are important and capture tons of details for them. Myla and Bart were very up front about how deeply spiritual they were, that for them, the highlight of the day was the sacrament of marriage. Four priests were performing the service, all of them good friends! So when I was told at the last minute by Julie the church organizer that there was no shooting allowed from the aisle (a first for me - I've shot there many times!), it was then my mission to do whatever I could to make up for the standard shots from the center aisle. I knew how much they would mean to Myla and Bart!

There are boundaries that I will just not cross. Like getting in the way of a ceremony. It irks me when I see a "professional" get in the middle of the aisle next to both the moms, stand there and shoot! Or get on the altar. It's unprofessional at best, disrespectful at most. Unfortunately there are enough shooters out there that have ruined it for the majority of us, which is why so many churches are so darned strict about photography. So just like you've been up front about what's important to you with your vendors, be equally up front with those in charge of organizing the ceremony. If they know how important it is for your photographer to roam AND if they know that photographer is respectful, they may relax their rules a bit.

In my case, I whispered to Julie about how Myla and Bart really wanted certain shots and could I please have permission to at least get the first kiss from closer than the back of the church? She agreed! Yes!





Super duper smart decision: get a master of ceremonies

Okay, I go to a TON of weddings. And those who have an iPod running the show, or a button pusher, well, it shows. The reception is an organic thing - a life of it's own, one that needs to be gently guided from place to place. One thing I've noticed about bad DJs and iPod weddings - most guests leave pretty darn early. And it has nothing to do with their friendship with the bride and groom!

So when I discovered that Myla and Bart hired Ron Grandia, I knew we were in for a fantastic night.



I was right - Ron guided that reception beautifully, from announcements (lighthearted and fun) to toasts and dancing and cake, with no lulls, no icky music, no chatter. There's only a handful of MCs out there that can do this well, so ask around, check out Yelp and the bridal boards and do some searching.





Super smart decision: the venue
Wow. Like Ralston Hall or the Julia Morgan Ballroom at the Merchant's Exchange, this is the kind of room that makes you drop your jaw. The warm wood and dramatic ceiling and view, the food, the incredibly kind and patient staff - I'm now a huge fan of Sharon Heights Golf Club.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!

I love this day. Every year, my husband gets a few of his Speech & Debate students from Westmont High School to come and serenade me and give me flowers, chocolate and other goodies. This year I'm a bit wistful, though - it's the last time Alex Riad will be one of the troubadors. He's a senior this year, all grown up and hoping to go to Columbia. I'll miss him next year but today, I wonder what he's cooked up to sing to me...
What's really cute is that my hubby's got my assistant and our babysitter doing recon on me! I'm sick as a dog (what the heck is this bug going around?) but wanted to come in for a few hours today. I have a feeling as soon as I walked in they were on walkie talkies shouting, "Go! Go! Go!" hehehe
Okay AS I'm writing this, here they come! What they don't know is that I've got a camera at the ready...

That's Chris & Tisha singing their hearts out - and boy they're good. You can tell they practiced their moves! Thanks you two...

And no Alex. ::sniff:: That's okay, he's a big senior with senior things to do. Like practice for the huge Berkeley tournament this weekend!

And yes, my hubby wrote me an amazing card. I just love him. I gotta tell you, brides to be, this marriage thing is wonderful. I'm excited for you to experience it!

Happy Valentine's day to all!

Thursday, February 7, 2008

Warning: Donovan update


The little guy starts preschool TOMORROW! Ack!
Part of me is whooping it up, part of me is scared to death. I should mention that we're sooooo lucky that we have a part time nanny who allows me to concentrate on my couples' needs, weddings and albums. She's helped him learn an incredible amount, so much so that academically, he's ready for kindergarten! But he needs friends, so off I went to visit preschools. Wish us both luck - I'll be the one outside in the parking lot bawling my eyes out. :D

So, where do I start?


Here's the thing...I've got some amazing couples. So you're thinking, "oh sure, you tell that to alllll the brides" but really, my couples just are this amazing mix of fun, funny, beautiful, caring, amazing.
One of my favorite times of the day are the toasts, because then I
really get to hear more about the history of the couple as told by people who love them.
Let's take Myla and Bart for example. They were my first couple of 08, with the ceremony at the gorgeous Church of the Nativity and the reception in the warm rich wood ballroom of Sharon Heights Golf Club.
Both are quick to smile, kind hearted, quite devout, a bit reserved, but when they look at each other I see their eyes sparkle. Myla is a petite woman, an absolute stunner especially when she lets her smile take over.

Then her maid of honor starts to toast her and talks about when Myla went spelunking. As in cave exploring. As in crawling through mud and bad droppings and squeezing through insanely dark tunnels. My jaw dropped! Would I have ever guessed that beautiful, almost delicately built Myla had ever been near a cave? Nope!
And then
there's the best man, who tells everyone there that they had met working at an AIDS hospice in San Francisco. Again, a huge eye opener. I knew this couple had a loving, spiritual part of them. But cave diving and hospice work? I liked them a bunch before the toasts, but I felt that much closer to them once I heard what their friends had to say.
Myla and Bart, a huge congratulations. Your friends and family are very blessed indeed to have you in their lives. :D

Church: Church of the Nativity, Menlo Park
Reception: Sharon Heights Golf Club
Coordinator: Jean Marks

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Ug, I lost a year's worth of blog entries. SIGH.

No, it's true...I switched from one host to another and ZAP it's all gone. All of it!
I'll do my best to recreate some of the posts but it looks like we'll need to start allllll over. I'm so sorry that there's not much more for you to read. More soon!